“People underestimate their capacity for change. There is never a right time to do a difficult thing.’ John Foster
If we have a difficult thing to undertake, one of the biggest mistakes we can ever make is to wait for ‘ the right time.’ We are far more capable and resilient than we realize… and we never know how far we can stretch until we find ourselves having to choose between falling and r-e-a-c-h-i-n-g for that next place.
Reaching for that next place has become something I strive toward, regardless of the difficulty level, in large part because of the many years I have spent as a Near Death Experience Researcher. During this time I have heard hundreds of people comment on the ‘life review’ process that accompanies the final days of life and I am a firm believer that this is a natural part of the dying process. It is a time of reflection where we vividly re-live and recount many of the pivotal moments we had in our lives, as well as the ones we caused in the lives of others- positive and negative. I cannot count how many times the dying have pulled me close and whispered words of advice that mirror this quote.
Indeed, there is never a right time to do a difficult thing- BUT THERE IS TIME.
Life brings difficult moments and situations to all of us, and they are often not things that we enjoy embracing. But my life’s work has shown me, and Near Death Experience Research backs it up, that we either deal with our ‘Bag of Shadows’ in the here and now, or we deal with it on our way out of this world. It is my goal, that when it is my time to go, my life review has more light than shadow, so every shadow that I can tackle now- no matter how uncomfortable, I at least try. It is a life philosophy that has not been an easy path, but it has given me a reason to reach- and on some days this has made all the difference.
Never underestimate your capacity for change, there is never a right time to do a difficult thing, but there is time.